how are you offended?

So i'm this big NPR fan currently, right? lisa! and i are always talking about Talk of the Nation and Fresh Air. and i'm a google reader addict, and one of the blogs i adore is feministing, so here for your listening pleasure are some links.
here is TOTN's op- ed about gays in the military:
Op-Ed: Gays And The Military A Bad Fit
here is The Purity Myth's author on conservative radio:
Jessica on the Laura Ingraham Show
so the first one is a conservative guest on a liberal call in show with a liberal host and all liberal callers. the second is a liberal guest on a conservative show with a conservative host and callers. now, not to wax political here, but we all know that i'm crazy liberal. and i tend to find political argument pretty uncomfortable. i don't like it when people fight on the radio. i expected, i guess, to prefer the first to the second, because there were more people on my side. but actually, the first made me feel all creepy and uncomfortable, and the second made me cheer "go jessica" a little.

I'm not sure excactly why this is. i think it might be because i'm not comparing apples to apples. First, neal always gets all fired up about the gays, and i'm glad he's on my side, but it doesn't make for a very fair and balanced host. plus his guest was so stupid- his points were just next to impossible to understand. I guess i felt jessica was really well prepared, and every time they tried to make her say she was pro-promiscuity she countered with "girls are more than just sexuality." I guess it just seems like if everyone could just throw away their reactionary language there would be a lot more to agree on.

i know they're both long bits, but i would love if someone else has listened to one- or both- to hear their comments. I don't care much how you feel about the issues themselves, but how these conversations make You feel, and what you think are the differences between these two pieces, and why you think i reacted differently to each. if you don't mind. if you still check back here every once in a while.